Whilst chatting to a friend about the vision I had for this blog, I mentioned that I would possibly share on some of my experiences as a young “modern day” Zimbabwean wife. Naturally, she questioned whether it was a good idea. I did too, my marriage is sacred and I want to protect it, but I also know that there is comfort in numbers and power in shared knowledge.
When Tapi and I started our journey we had an indescribable connection…that feeling where your world gets turned upside down and inside out. Sore cheeks from smiling too much when you are with him… As cliché as it may sound I had been praying for my prince charming, so I knew It was a God thing when we met. So we got married. People talk about nerves, I had nothing on that day, just an incredible peace that I have never felt before. Finding: Pray for your prince charming, it works.
Fast forward, wedding, honeymoon, life began. Marriage has a crazy way of bringing everything to the surface. The first year of my marriage was tough for me. A lot happened. I went through a long period of terrible insomnia. I was tired, angry, and sick all the time. I had to deal with this new world of Birth Control, most of which either made me sick or gave me terrible headaches. I missed home, my family, I hated my job and I was popping all sorts of pills to get me out of bed. I also didn’t feel like I could talk to any of my friends because I felt like I would be judged for not being “a happy newlywed” and that everyone would chime in and tell me that I should’ve listened when they told me I was “too young to get married”. I was convinced that I was just a horrible wife and that it was a matter of time before Tapi gave up on me. He didn’t. He loved me more. Held my hand, uplifted me, forced me to laugh again. Finding: It’s ok to be weak today…tomorrow is a new day.
So this post is a shout out to my “wing”. I love that you let me dress you up! Too much black? No such thing! Harem pants are the best thing invented after trackies, actually, I take that back, they reign over trackies!! Comfort… plus… the fact that you can wear them outdoors and be considered a “cool Melbourne hipster”! The cow neck Tapi is wearing we got from a little shop in KL (my fav shopping destination). Those Wayne Cooper boots are what we call an ” investment” piece. I’m all about bargain hunting, but I like to buy Tapi investment pieces because he doesn’t shop as much, he’s had them for almost 4 years now. My look is the female version. The tie-dye vest hoodie is Tapi’s, we got it at a folk festival in Port Fairy, (random, I know). I’ll be honest, platform sneakers, my initial thoughts; made in the 90’s and should stay there, but then I got a pair and I felt like Scary Spice… so they’re staying ..for now, (Sportsgirl). I also thought I’d show you the glam version of this look as well and brought out the monster heel. Tony Bianco, also an investment piece, they look beautiful, but they could also break your leg. Finding: Invest in your AND…It will determine your END, Tapi AND Mati.